What it means to love too much

I've always been the girl that was too intense for most people. I am that way with relationships and I suppose I'm the same with friendships. Whether its the big gestures or the little ones. However, I am extremely selective with who I let in and I only show my goofy interior to those I'm comfortable with. I have known guys who have told me that I wasn't "girlfriend material" because apparently they thought I was "wife material". If you assume that's a compliment, it's really not. Though that clearly demonstrates that they were never looking to get serious to begin with which is extremely off putting.

Many a time I've been told never to let my guard down so easily, never to be that girl who laid all her cards on the table and to never show my emotions because it's a sign of weakness. Never make the first move, never admit to liking someone first, never ask a guy out on a date, never send the first text, never be so totally available, never show who you really are beneath it all. To clear the air, I never took any of that crap seriously. Bare in mind that all that advice came from insecure women and men who never measured up. We live in a world where we care so much about what people think of us that we've lost ourselves completely.

Truth is, men are just as afraid of putting themselves out there and getting hurt. No one wants to put themselves in a vulnerable position. Playing emotional mind games is hardly going to get you anywhere and in the long run, its exhausting and unnecessary. Not to mention, the other party would lose a significant amount of respect for you. I know I would.

We live in the 21st century. Why are we so afraid of embracing who we are? Why do we make life more complicated then it already is? We seem to exist merely for that purpose alone.

If you like someone, let them know. If you're interested in someone, ask them out. If you miss someone, text them, tell them & make plans. I'd love to get texts like that! Awesome, if they like you back & move on if they don't. That might be easier said then done but I promise you, it saves you from so much drama and prolonged heartache. Love yourself enough to know what you're worth and what you deserve. If someone can't see how very amazing you are, they're probably not right for you anyway and they definitely do not deserve you. If someone likes you, they'll make every effort to be part of your life. It works both ways. No excuses.

The girl that loves too much is intense. Some may even find her overwhelming or challenging. She'll go a million miles for someone she cares about. She'll prioritize the people who are important to her. She'll make time for her loved ones. She's in when she's in and she'll see her emotions through, regardless of how things turn out. She'll always give you the benefit of the doubt. She'll overlook your flaws and imperfections. She'll emphasize on your strengths. She'll be supportive regardless of what you choose to do. She'll forgive you endlessly. She'll push you to be the best version of yourself because she sees your potential. She'll never try to change you. This also means that she'll get hurt just as badly. Being an open book comes with its own consequences especially when one falls into the wrong hands. However, regardless of how many times she's been hurt, she lives to see the good in everything and everyone. Some may even assume she's unrealistic but the truth of the matter is, she's an idealist.

Just don't push her too far. Don't date her if you're not sure about her. Don't give her the wrong idea if you're on the fence. The minute you break her heart, the second you stop valuing her, she'll walk away and she'll be gone for good. She constantly puts herself out there because it's comforting to know she's getting warmer. She's getting closer. In a way, that makes it worth the risk.


In conclusion, The girl that loves too much breaks all the rules. She's a rebel at heart and in all honesty, she's never felt more alive!